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Dealing With Differences by Robert Turner
Dealing With Differences by Robert Turner
I was making notes in order to write an article on the disagreements found in Acts 15 – the problem of circumcision and keeping the law of Moses, and then the question of whether to take Mark along on another preaching journey or not. Then Steve Wolfgang reposted this article by Robert Turner. I am still thinking and contemplating writing my article, but want to digest these words of wisdom and have them as a foundation upon which to work and think! Hugh
Words of wisdom from Robert F. Turner, a half-century ago. Posted several times in years past, but well worth repeating!
Brethren frequently differ with one another, and that is not necessarily a bad thing. It may indicate conviction, and our concern that others share our understanding of God’s word. Differences spring from various degrees of learning or experience, or from opinions expressed on moot questions. They may be avenues for greater learning and service, as all true saints will seek to keep differences within constructive bounds.
But we must know HOW to differ constructively. Who will write a “How To-” study with teacher’s manual and work books? The need is here, in a wide field. If I were writing such material, I think I would begin by saying that we may differ with equals—on a compatible basis as neighbors. Childish weakness is evident in those who consider all with whom they differ as blood enemies. We must “grow up.”
Second: make all possible effort to understand the other’s position. Can you state his affirmation so he will accept it? You may find that you agree on the principle, and differ only on its application to some practice. Say so, and study accordingly.
Next: try to understand why your opponent thinks as he does. Seek, by reasoning, to walk in his shoes. This will improve your attitude toward him and may enable you to help him. (I am assuming that saints maintain this goal in their differences.) Also, as error involves persons, we need to be aware that there is a brother on the other end of our lance.
Hearts are WON, not TAKEN, by battle tactics. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. Real conviction cannot be forced on anyone, and carnal efforts to do so defeat legitimate purposes (2 Corinthians 10).
Listen—at least as much as you speak. If your opponent takes unfair advantage of the time, give him a gentle reminder or two—then politely but firmly excuse yourself. A shouting contest wins no souls for Christ.
Be honest! If you cannot answer a question, say so—and promise to study, then answer later. In such cases, let the opponent explain his answer, and proofs; then check these as you study the matter for yourself.
As much as possible, turn “differences” into mutual studies—two men, working together to determine truth. I am aware that ideal circumstances cannot always exist, but we can try.
And remember, he who best serves the Lord is the “winner”—always!
—Robert F. Turner, Plain Talk, July, 1974
